Overcoming your fear of an LD (Learning Disability) diagnosis

source: brianraymondking.com

To truly champion the strengths that will allow you to succeed while living with an LD diagnosis, you must first free yourself of all resistance to the diagnosis.

Facing the diagnosis of a learning disability such as dyslexia, ADHD, autism, and many other conditions, can be one of the most harrowing events of parenthood. Parents who must endure this difficult revelation must, therefore, be treated with the utmost compassion and patience as they process the information and begin to plan for the lifelong ramifications of their child’s condition. However, even parents who have the full support and empathy of their immediate families, as well as the guidance of the social and educational communities, sometimes struggle to cope effectively with their child’s reality and engage in recalcitrant behavior with respect to the diagnosis.

This parental resistance can emanate from multiple sources, but the principal influences causing parents’ discomfort with active management and intervention are:

1) fear of social isolation of both the LD individual,

2) fear of stigmatization of the LD individual’s family in their social and professional communities,

3) pride in the parents’ own academic achievements and abilities and resulting disbelief in the birth of a child unlikely to replicate those feats,

4) financial implications of addressing a learning disability, and

5) unwillingness to devote the additional time required to cooperate with the external sources of support. In these unfortunate scenarios, the learning disabled child or young adult is greatly imperiled as he or she is endangered of progressing through education and life without the single most crucial support structure necessary to develop into a functional adult.

Learning disabled individuals who do not have the backing of their own homes are very unlikely to compensate even with expert support from his or her social and school environments, rendering these other secondary support structures largely ineffectual.

It is therefore of great importance that learning disabled individuals and the community of stakeholders around them develop methods and protocols to engage recalcitrant parents in addressing special educational needs in non-stigmatizing ways that reassure the parents that LD management techniques are trustworthy and beneficial to the child or young adult’s long-term prosperity.

Topics we cover in this episode include:

1) How LD individuals, especially those of adult or near adult age, can be effective self-advocates in the face of denial, gaslighting, and invalidation relating to the diagnosis and its implications, and how we can instill a sense of pride in these individuals,

2) How recalcitrant parents can be taught the numerous upsides not only of effective intervention but of the disability itself, namely, that attending their child’s learning differences are highly useful attributes in school and business (which are also highly regarded in the social circles that may be the chief factor fueling their resistance to acknowledgement) and that the differences are things of which the parents themselves can be proud,

3) How we can impress upon parents the benefits of proper management, up to and including financial and social benefits resulting from greater prospects for the child with intervention as proactive as possible, and

4) How we need a compassionate but firm approach that teaches parents and other caregivers that being true to oneself and to their loved one with an LD is a path to prosperity while playing a contrived role is one destined for frustration for both them and the LD individual.

PACT Links

You may visit the following links (this page – http://yieldmore.org/pl):

http://yieldmore.org/ie – Instrumental Enrichment – a metacognitive program for developing ones ability to better meet goals by improving the process of input-elaboration-output.

/wve – WorldView Explorations – A trademarked set of 22 lessons for school and college children developed by the Institute of Noetic Sciences, founded in 1973.

/school – a curated list of 150 English songs for children, for better appreciation of music and culture. –

/values – A series of classroom exercises developed by Prof Naidu.

/pw – Peaceworks – Our program for guiding, counselling and skill development.

/tct – The Compass Team – with India’s first copyrighted, holistic child development program.

/pactg – The PACT discussion Google Group.

NB: these are short urls and do not end with a / [slash].

What is PACT

PACT – Peoples Alliance for Children and Teachers is an initiative by YieldMore.org begun in September 2017 that is a platform for discussion, debate and action in the field of Education.

PACT is a coming together of all these involved in the holistic development of the child. First described by Rani here, PACT is a series of digests for parents, administrators, children and teachers, the influencers and the influenced who help shape and build a better tomorrow.

This is an invitation to one and all to give ideas on topics that should be covered, who can make videos, whether to setup an interactive Q&A site, who else to involve, what existing platforms and resources are available, a helper directory, some information for consideration by parents and teachers and what activities the children can do. These could include social awareness, ways to combat stress and peer pressure, developing ones sense of value and identity, inspiring ideas, tools and devices, holistic education etc.